Forgiveness by Dr. Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon

July 18, 2007 at 8:58 pm (nonfiction, psychology, self-help)

Believe it or not, I am a big self-helper. Whenever I’m faced with a problem I don’t have an immediate solution to, the Forgivenessfirst thing I do is locate a book on the subject. So, a couple weeks back when an old flame who I’d thought I was totally over suddenly popped back into my life, sparking a host of negative feelings I was convinced I’d dealt with many moons ago, I went looking for a book that could tell me how to process those emotions. An Amazon search pointed me to Sidney B. and Suzanne Simon’s, Forgiveness.

This book attempts to clear a path through the many difficult emotions and behaviors that prevent individuals from fogiving those who have hurt them. The Simons’ ask and answer the questions of what forgiveness actually is and what it isn’t. They look at how anger in the forms of denial, self-blame, victimhood, and indignation can be dealt with and released. The writing is straight forward, all terms and concepts clearly defined.

Of course, the real test of a self-help book is whether it actually helps. I can say with total confidence, yes, Forgiveness helps. Peppered with lengthy writing exercises designed to help the reader clarify his or her own feelings, this book offers insight to those willing and ready to work for it. I finished this book two weeks ago and am still in the process of working through the writing exercises. They are forcing me to examine my feeling regarding long discarded relationships and my own negative and destructive ways of dealing with hurt. The Simons have presented a set of tools anyone can use to find their own way to forgiveness for a fraction of a fraction of the cost of therapy. I would say this volume is a must have for any avid self-helper.



  1. thetook said,

    you welcome. yeah rent is crazy. damnnnnn you rent.

  2. westernqueensland said,

    I hope that I don’t have to read self-help books. Not because I don’t believe in them, but because when everything is good you don’t need them. I like your review, and I am impressed by your maturity vis-a-vis the sputtering flame.

  3. Linda Barrow said,

    My family:
    Mother’s mother killed herself and left a suicide note,
    Mother’s sister drank herself to death
    Mother’s father was murdered
    Mother loved me but was emotionally unavailable
    My father drank every night and died of cancer when I was 24.
    sister and brother both married 4 times each
    nieces and nephews that are my age have various problems, workaholism, stress, drug dependancies, jail, failed marriages, abusive communication
    My brother physically abused me when he was 44 and I was 23 (kicked, punched and tore my clothes because i touched a water heater timer.
    My sister’s 4th huband has been controlling husband to my sister and emotionally abusive man towards me. He rejected, ignored and has been rude to me. My sister supported him.
    After 23 years I have had it. I had a lot of anger that came out at them, but now realize for my health that I had to let them go.
    Now reading Forgiveness and learning that none of this was my fault. It’s frustrating to know that they will never realize what they have done but it’s healing to know and finally feel that what they did was horrible. Thank you

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